“Live out of your imagination, not your history”
Very wise words spoken by Stephen Covey.
We all love to tell our story. We have become Masters at telling one another our life stories as they appear now, in what we refer to as reality. We may have several aspects in our life going very well, but I guarantee we will focus on the one aspect that isn’t going so well.
We get so stuck in the detail of our history, telling our stories over and over again.
What’s wrong with this?. The more we get stuck in the story, the history of our lives, what we perceive as reality, the more stuck we become period.
Like adding fuel to the fire, whatever we focus our attention on, we get more of the same. We are expert at going back in time within our minds and finding a folder marked ‘evidence’ of when something didn’t work and using that as a reason not to move forward or go after something we want, or proceed under great caution or duress.
So what’s the answer? Start telling a different story.
Start telling the story of your life as you want it to be, living out of your imagination. Stop telling your story as you see it currently.
‘But that’s living in fantasy land’ I hear you cry! It may appear on the surface as living in fantasy land, but the story you have been telling of your ‘reality’ isn’t real anyway. Your brain receives 40 million bits of information per second. Your brain filters that to 40 bits of information per second. So you are only ever able to see your current life through a microscopic lens anyway.
If you are always telling the story of how hard it is to find a new job, start telling the story of looking forward to starting a new job in a job you want to be in and imagine yourself already doing that job. If you are always telling the story about the lack of decent single men out there, start telling the story of looking forward to meeting the right man when he comes along and imaging yourself in your ideal relationship. If you have been fixated on something you can’t do, start telling the story that you are getting better at doing it and you are looking forward to mastering it and imagine yourself doing that activity or behaviour well. If you have been beating the drum of how hard it is to get a new business off the ground and you are being ‘realistic and practical’ with your targets, start telling the story of how many businesses flourish from the word go, set the expectation for your business to do well and imagine your business flourishing.
Start to live your life out of your imagination and start telling the story of your life as you want it to unfold and you will find yourself pleasantly surprised……what have you got to lose?