Did you know that the fear of public speaking ranks high among people’s greatest fears, even surpassing the fear of death? Recently, a young man approached me seeking help to conquer his fear of speaking in public, particularly when meeting new people in his new job. This fear not only affected his confidence at work but also hindered his ability to make new friends.
As we delved deeper into his fear, he described being consumed by anxiety and worry about what others would think of him, especially during initial encounters. Surprisingly, he was naturally confident and easy to converse with, but when faced with meeting someone new, irrational thoughts would take over.
Have you experienced that overwhelming feeling of your mind going blank, struggling to find words when under pressure? Many individuals fear public speaking due to past unpleasant experiences. I once had a client who carried a fear of humiliation for over three decades after a joke fell flat in his school class.
What both of these clients discovered was that at the core of their fear lay the fear of rejection. Wanting to be liked and accepted by others is a deep-rooted instinct that profoundly influences our behaviour. Throughout human history, survival often depended on being accepted by our tribe. Rejection meant being cast out into the wilderness, which could be life-threatening. Emotional rejection, in our evolved minds, triggers a similar response to physical pain.
It’s essential to recognise that facing your fear and pushing through it isn’t always effective when dealing with a primal response wired into your brain. However, there is good news.
Your mind stores a vast archive of past experiences and associated emotions. When faced with a presentation, pitch, or webinar, your mind instinctively retrieves the relevant file, containing your previous performance. If you continue to do what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting the same results.
Here’s where modalities such as hypnotherapy for a fear of public speaking, MAP, and EFT Tapping Therapy come into play. By clearing out outdated files and patterns from childhood and creating new ones, you can transform your fear of public speaking. It’s like installing a new operating system, enabling you to speak with confidence, relaxation, and groundedness.
Ready to experience the transformative power of overcoming your fear of public speaking? Book a free consultation today and embark on a journey towards confident and effortless public speaking.
Sara Maude is an Edinburgh Hypnotherapist, Solution-Focused Psychotherapist, EFT Practitioner, Transformational Coach and International Wellbeing Trainer providing in-person and online sessions. Sara provides problem-free therapy which goes deep into the heart of the unconscious mind to create powerful lasting change.