Has anyone ever told you to ‘think positive’?.
Frustrating isn’t it!
Thinking positive is all very well and good when you feel good. But when you feel a wreck or you are worried or feel like your back is up against the wall, thinking positive can be an impossible task.
Why? Because the mind and the body aren’t working together as one.
When your head is thinking ‘come on you can do this’ but your body is saying ‘I can’t do this now get me out of here’ then all the positive thinking in the world isn’t going to make a difference when your body is in conflict with your head.
I meet a lot of people who think negatively and have done for years.
Don’t get me wrong, there will be times in your life when you do think negatively, and that’s normal! I am sure that even the odd rouge negative thought slipped into Ghandis mind now and then.
But when you spend most of your day, particularly for years, thinking negative thoughts, you have also conditioned your body to feel negative emotions.
Now you don’t even have to think about how to feel anxious or unhappy or sad or alone, it just comes naturally to you. This is because emotions are simply chemicals and as you repeatedly think certain negative thoughts, you release the same chemicals. This then get’s locked into a cycle.
During times like this your friend may say to you ‘chin up, think positive!’.
On its own positive thinking never works.
Trying to think positive is simply trying to think your way out of what you are feeling on the inside. When the mind and body are in opposition, things won’t change.
What can you do to feel positive?
Step 1: Become aware of your thoughts in the first place.
Science tells us we have about 70,000 thoughts a day and the majority are exactly the same as you had the day before that and the day before that. With a little awareness and monitoring, you will see that in certain situations, you think certain thoughts. For example, if your friend is trying to get you to go out on the town, you may always think ‘I don’t want to go out, I look fat and no-one ever notices me’.
Step 2: Keep a journal
Keeping a regular journal is a brilliant way of getting out of your mind and body what you are thinking and feeling onto paper so that it’s not ruminating in your head. It is also a fantastic way to consciously start to notice how you emotionally react to situations and the thoughts and behaviours that go hand in hand with that. You will start to notice thought patterns, enabling you to become far more aware of where you keep tripping yourself up with your thoughts.
Step 3: Start tapping!
In order to think more positive, you have to change the way you feel. Black and white thinking is locked in by high emotion. The simplest and easiest way to change how you feel is through tapping, or EFT as its formerly known.
EFT allows you to tap on the acupressure points of your body that link up to the limbic brain, your emotional brain. This helps to calm down the emotions you are experiencing and saying out loud what you are feeling at the same time helps to reframe what’s going through your head.
The result? You can think positively!
Learn how to use EFT on yourself here in this introduction to EFT video.
If you would like a personal session on how to use EFT to overcome your personal blocks, then feel free to book a session with me today.